Let me ask you a serious question. When was the last time that you actually did something nice for yourself? One thing I’ve learned from therapy is that in order for you to actually love others you must first be able to love yourself. The best way to increase your self-worth is to make yourself a priority in your life. This may seem pretty foreign to a lot of you. Growing up most of us for probably taught to put others needs ahead of our own and we have carried this into our adult life. For example, if you grew up watching your mom prepare everyone’s dinner first and be the last one to eat then you might think that you are supposed the last. I’m not saying this is right or wrong it is just an example. If you did not grow up seeing her having examples of adults loving themselves and taking care of themselves, then you probably don’t do that. What you need to do is try to become aware of why you don’t or have not made yourself a priority in your life. Figuring out who or what help create your belief system will positively benefit you.
Self-love and compassion is an absolute must. At least occasionally putting yourself first is good for you and everyone around you. You will feel better and have more energy to face the day. This energy will spread to other areas of your life. It’s really never too late to make a change. Figure out what brings you joy and makes you feel good inside and do it for yourself. Do you have a hobby that you’ve always enjoyed and put it on the back burner? Think about things that make you smile and get you excited just by thinking about them. They can be anything. For some people and maybe dancing others woodworking. Whatever it is for you, try to get back to them in some way. Take time for yourself and give more to yourself. When you feel happy on the inside it starts to radiate on the outside. Putting energy into something that you really like, love are just feel really good about will make you feel good about yourself and become more confident. There is nothing like a confident person who knows their own self-worth
This is something that most therapists are now stressing to help people feel better. We all get caught up in our busy lifestyles, but we deserve time to ourselves. We deserve to take the time to unwind and find something to do to rejuvenate ourselves. Whether it’s going to the spa, getting a massage or even playing video games, etc., the point is just do something that makes you feel good. Love yourself. Even just starting out by dedicating an hour a day for meditation could be how you give back yourself. There is nothing wrong with loving yourself and taking the time to make yourself a priority in your life. Don’t let anyone ever make you feel guilty for taking the time to take care of yourself and love yourself. You deserve that.
Have a great day!